I have been doing a lot of reflecting lately. I thought about some of the things I have learned over the years. Here is a collection of 10 of my biggest life lessons:
1. Accept compliments!
Don’t question everyone that compliments you. I’m pretty? What me? Really? On what planet? Are you sure? All this is unnecessary, a simple thank you will do. Let it sink in, it was a compliment directed at you, enjoy!
2. Spontaneity is the way forward
Being spontaneous is the best way to go. Some of the most memorable outings have been unplanned. Is it me or does planning sometimes suck out all the fun from the get go? When my friends call with last minute plans; 98% of the time we have the most fun! I find it’s the events that take longer to organise that don’t always end well.
3. There is no obligation
If you don’t want to do something, don’t! The keyword here is “Obligation”, if it is your job/duty to do so, I’m advising you to do it! This applies to other scenarios.. We sometimes do things to please others and there is no harm in doing so! However, if something isn’t your cup of tea, don’t feel as though you always have to say yes. With that being said, always make sure you are at least being open minded which brings me to my next lesson…
4. Be open minded
Explore other options and leave your comfort zone once in a while. Your friends may have invited you to a Roller Disco, you’ve never been, but for some reason you don’t want to go. Think of all the reasons why you don’t want to go and weight up your options. If sitting at home watching TV is your only other option, then why not at least give it a go. It is an opportunity to try something new with the possibility of meeting new people. Once you’ve tried it, you can then cross it off your list! Sitting too comfortably in the comfortable zone could mean you are missing out in the long run.
5. You don’t need to justify yourself!
My mum has been saying this to me for years. If you make a decision, it is your choice to go ahead with it. If you are happy with your decision and it isn’t affecting anyone else; why do you need to explain yourself? People can plug you all they want, but it is your prerogative to divulge. Try it one day; instead of replying with a full blown reply to justify yourself, say you did it because you wanted to.
6. Not everyone is going to like you!
Don’t spend time thinking through the reasons why someone could possibly dislike you. Throw that thought to the back of your mind. If someone wants to waste time and energy hating you, then leave them to it! You have bigger fish to fry my friend! Always remind yourself which bill of yours they are contributing to. Oh… they don’t pay any of your bills?
7. Leave the excuses at home!
We all do it. We get to work a little late and say “My alarm didn’t go off”, when deep down we know it did! Admit it, your Pillow asked you to stay 5 mins longer and you couldn’t resist! One day I was running a little late for work, I had already thought of an excuse to use, instead I said ”Today I was disorganized, I need to sort out my time management”. My manager did not expect that response, he let it slide due to me being honest. Take responsibility for your actions!
8. Kill them with kindness!
This can apply to all aspects of your life. If anyone has anything bad to say about you, be kind! Do not stoop to their level; I know it’s easier said than done, but at the end of the day they are only making themselves look bad! If you know it is out of character for you to mirror their actions, then continue as you were. At least no one can badmouth you for being too kind.
9. Voice your opinions
If you have something to say, say it! Don’t be that person that has a zillion things going through their mind throughout a discussion, yet hesitates to say a word. Be bold; bring it to light, there and then! I was once a very shy girl. I would sit quietly in the corner and barely say anything to anyone. You know that saying “The shy girl catches the worm”, she doesn’t! (I’m aware this isn’t the actual saying). I wasn’t put on this earth to mimic a tree, no sir! Now I’ve started, I can’t stop and won’t stop!
10. Be yourself
You are unique, so embrace it! Do whatever blows your hair back. You are a one off, limited edition, non-refundable, non-exchangeable bundle of delightfulness. It’s kind of like when you are proposing your business idea, there’s always a unique selling point. Remind yourself of your unique qualities and run with it!
I love all of these but my problem is the first one! I can’t take compliments well at all but neither can my sister. 🙂
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Lol I think a lot of people struggle with this one. Thanks for reading!
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I love number one, Hell I fish for compliments as my husband says ahahahaha. Wicked article all so true so you better stick to them all 🙂 xxx
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Lol he must be used to it then!
Thank you, I plan to 🙂
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Great mantras in there. Great post 😉
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Thank you! 🙂
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No 1!! I really need to learn to do this. Just accept compliments gracefully.
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It does take time. I can’t count the amount of times I’ve questioned people for complimenting me lol.
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Hi! These are also my life lessons! I agree with all of them. 🙂 My fave is number 8. Some of my friends or even my boyfriend want me to fight for myself sometimes but I always believe that kindness is the sweetest revenge. 🙂
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Hey,
haha they just don’t understand! It works like a charm! It’s not worth losing your cool over trivial things.
Thanks for reading 🙂
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You are amazing and pretty! (Lesson no 1 [sorry couldn’t resist] and true) I love this post. I agree completely with everything you said and you said it so well. I have endeavoured to live my life like this for some time. Thank you so much for sharing.
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No thank you! You are too kind 🙂 I’m glad you enjoyed reading 🙂
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So true. All of them. Especially about being spontaneous. My ‘planned’ plans never ever take off. I just keep planning them 🙂
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Haha, I kinda take a back seat when it comes to making plans.
Thanks for reading 🙂
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I love the theme going around. You inspired me to make my own list. But I am yet to write it down. But in my head, it’s written. Hahaha. I hope that made sense.
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I know what you mean! This happens to me a lot, but I find that I have to write it down before it’s forgotten. I look forward to reading your post! 🙂
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http://ohcarlaloo.com/2014/05/09/baggage-check/ It didn’t really turn out to be a list but I kinda like it. Hehe. Thank you again!
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It’s okay! I’m going to take a peek 🙂
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I have to remind myself I don’t !!owe and explanation!! to anyone.
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To be honest this lesson probably took the longest to sink in. I would always think I owed everyone an explanation and my mum would remind me of this.
Thanks for reading 🙂
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spontaneity can be a great thing
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