9 Lessons I’ve Learned From My Mum

1. Take everyone with a pinch of salt
Not everyone will be to your liking. People have said that I see the best in people and this isn’t necessarily the case. I’m far from naive; I’ve been taught that giving people the power to annoy me will not benefit me in the long run. There are situations that could have turned out the complete opposite, but I refused to let people get the better of me. Of course there are times when this is hard to do, I am only human! Accept differences whenever possible and keep it moving!
2. Every spoil is a style
There have been a few times I’ve questioned my mum’s outfits, although she wears her clothes well! My mum responds with her famous line “I paid for it, it’s clean and I didn’t rob anyone. So I will wear whatever I want”. Wear whatever you feel comfortable in!

3. Dance like nobody is watching
No matter what the occasion is my mum will dance the day or night away. She is the party! Wherever there is music she will dance, even if there isn’t music I can guarantee she will make her own. I’ve been in the middle of a conversation with her and I’ve turned around to find her dancing on the other side of the room. Dance your troubles away!
4. Don’t put dampers on it
If I’m frowning and my mum enters the room, I know I have to turn that frown upside down ASAP! She will question me and once I begin to reply, she will cut me off and say “I don’t want any negativity in here” then a little rant will follow this. You may be wondering why she didn’t give me a chance to reply, this is her method of helping me get back on track and it works! I grew up on tough love and it didn’t do me any harm! Try to remain positive!

5. Do not rely on anyone
No expectations = No disappointments. If someone pulls through, then great! If they don’t, no biggie! We all need a helping hand from time to time, however if you can do it yourself then…

6. Do it yourself
I can’t even count the amount of times I have witnessed my mum do things I wouldn’t even imagine doing. Whilst my friends were playing outside; I was inside helping my mum plaster a ceiling or assisting her as she built a wardrobe from scratch! I remember a neighbour saying that my mum and another lady on my street were manlier than all the men on the street put together (There was a compliment in there somewhere I promise lol). If my mum can do it, so can I! I am not implying that I will be making a wardrobe from scratch though.
7. Friends come and go
Over the years I have realised the amount of friends I have is insignificant. I can count all my friends on one hand and that’s okay because they are the ones that have been there for the long haul. My mum would tell me about what to expect in terms of friendship groups and I didn’t imagine it coming true. I guess my mum knows best!

8. Passion is your oyster
I’ve never come across anyone as passionate as my mum. I almost feel as though I’m looking into her heart as she talks. She was lucky enough to find her passion at a young age and it is has stuck with her to this day.
9. One kindness deserves another
I consider this to be my mum’s all time favourite quote. She has mentioned this quote over and over recently. I can hear her in my head right now saying this quote to my brother. If someone is kind to you, be kind back!


Be Kind, It Doesn’t Cost A Thing!

When you reach out to someone and they are thankful, it is one of the best feelings! You can’t expect people to always be kind towards you; sometimes it may seem like receiving a simple “Hello” or “Thank you” is like getting blood out of a stone.

I encounter all kinds of people on a daily basis; some will make a conscious effort to be kind or show their appreciation, then there are those who barely acknowledge my existence.

I always consider the fact that people have their own problems to deal with and it doesn’t necessarily mean they are not grateful. I once had a lady approach me to apologize for being in a bad mood the previous day; she thought she may have come across as rude. I assumed she had a lot on her plate, I didn’t take it to heart and I said it was okay. The fact she came back to apologize says a lot!


I am not excusing those who are flat out rude! Yesterday me and a few others went out of our way to help a man and he didn’t say thank you to either of us. Apparently this is always the case with him, I will never forget him and it’s for all the wrong reasons! I wouldn’t want people to remember me for my misdemeanors. In the end he didn’t even get what he wanted and I’m sure you can guess the reason why.

I always make sure I say “Please” and “Thank you” first and foremost. There are times I may not feel like myself, a passer by will say “Good morning” and that alone helps to lift my mood. I’m sure you can think of a time when this has happened to you!


I’m not saying you should go out of your way to be kind to random people at every given opportunity. Do it from the goodness of your heart!  It shouldn’t feel like a chore! Acts of kindness shouldn’t be for your own good or seen as a chance to seek praise. Show your appreciation whenever you can and let people know that you are grateful.

Initiating acts of kindness can be rewarding. When the receiver shows their appreciation that is a bonus! Kindness doesn’t cost a thing! It could make someone’s day!

“Unexpected kindness is the most powerful, least costly, and most underrated agent of human change.”

Bob Kerrey (1943) American Politician