What’s Your Purpose?

Writing 101, Day 1: Unlock the mind 

I do not believe for a second that I was put on this earth to live without a purpose, I am not here to sit and look pretty! I was a little bundle of joy my parents decided to bring into the world, they wanted me to grab hold of every opportunity that came my way and live a fabulous life. I have been molded into the person I am today due to my upbringing and along the way I have been searching for my purpose.

I’m not certain if I will find it tomorrow or even next week. I can’t guarantee that I will find my purpose, all I know is that I am determined to search for it.  I used to believe that having a good job would lead to finding my purpose. For some strange reason I’ve always despised being asked the question ‘What do you do?’ What does this even mean? I breathe, eat and sleep just like you! I used to avoid this question at all costs! Instead I would share my plans to start my own ice cream van business or my plans to become a pirate.

I’ve realised that my job doesn’t define me, if you want to put me into category based on my job title, then so be it! I may be in this job today, but who knows where I will be tomorrow. I honestly do not want to end up being that person that constantly takes work home after work and forgets to live life.

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On my journeys to work I have seen people that are all suited and booted, and they look so miserable! At first glance I admittedly assume some of them have fairly well paid jobs. Then there’s the happy go lucky people who may not have best jobs, but they have the biggest smiles on their faces! Who knows they may be happy with their jobs! They may even have a passion they are yet to pursue and it is keeping them going. Just remember your current situation is only as permanent as the thoughts you allow to stream through your mind.

Many of us work because we have to; the purpose of working is to pay bills and so on. This doesn’t necessarily define your purpose on earth. Paying bills is something we all have to do. Over the years I’ve asked others if they enjoy their jobs and only a handful have said yes. Of course there are the lucky ones that are passionate about their jobs and work doesn’t seem like work for them. Are you one of those people?

If not, you can always look a little deeper, so many of us have hobbies which we are so passionate about and we have the ability to do so much with them. So what if your current situation doesn’t reflect your purpose? I am going to try my hardest to gain insight into more of my interests and hopefully my purpose will become a lot clearer. Right now I feel like I am on the right track!

Is it possible to lead a happy life without a purpose? Do you feel as though you have found your purpose? I believe that once you find your passion it will lead to your purpose.

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What Makes You Happy?

If I had to narrow it down to one thing, it would be my family!  No matter if it’s rain or shine my family are always there for me. We are a close knit family, It’s always nice to know I have my little support unit.

I look forward to our regular catch ups, which sometimes last longer than anticipated. We spend a lot of time sharing stories, reminiscing, laughing and exchanging advice.

I want them to have the very best in life because they truly do deserve it!

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What makes you happy?

10 Of My Biggest Life Lessons

I have been doing a lot of reflecting lately. I thought about some of the things I have learned over the years. Here is a collection of 10 of my biggest life lessons:

1. Accept compliments!

Don’t question everyone that compliments you. I’m pretty? What me? Really? On what planet? Are you sure? All this is unnecessary, a simple thank you will do. Let it sink in, it was a compliment directed at you, enjoy!

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2. Spontaneity is the way forward

Being spontaneous is the best way to go. Some of the most memorable outings have been unplanned. Is it me or does planning sometimes suck out all the fun from the get go? When my friends call with last minute plans; 98% of the time we have the most fun! I find it’s the events that take longer to organise that don’t always end well.

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3. There is no obligation

If you don’t want to do something, don’t! The keyword here is “Obligation”, if it is your job/duty to do so, I’m advising you to do it! This applies to other scenarios.. We sometimes do things to please others and there is no harm in doing so! However, if something isn’t your cup of tea, don’t feel as though you always have to say yes. With that being said, always make sure you are at least being open minded which brings me to my next lesson…

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4. Be open minded

Explore other options and leave your comfort zone once in a while. Your friends may have invited you to a Roller Disco, you’ve never been, but for some reason you don’t want to go. Think of all the reasons why you don’t want to go and weight up your options. If sitting at home watching TV is your only other option, then why not at least give it a go. It is an opportunity to try something new with the possibility of meeting new people. Once you’ve tried it, you can then cross it off your list! Sitting too comfortably in the comfortable zone could mean you are missing out in the long run.

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5. You don’t need to justify yourself!

My mum has been saying this to me for years. If you make a decision, it is your choice to go ahead with it. If you are happy with your decision and it isn’t affecting anyone else; why do you need to explain yourself? People can plug you all they want, but it is your prerogative to divulge. Try it one day; instead of replying with a full blown reply to justify yourself, say you did it because you wanted to.

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6. Not everyone is going to like you!

Don’t spend time thinking through the reasons why someone could possibly dislike you. Throw that thought to the back of your mind. If someone wants to waste time and energy hating you, then leave them to it! You have bigger fish to fry my friend! Always remind yourself which bill of yours they are contributing to. Oh… they don’t pay any of your bills?

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7. Leave the excuses at home!

We all do it. We get to work a little late and say “My alarm didn’t go off”, when deep down we know it did! Admit it, your Pillow asked you to stay 5 mins longer and you couldn’t resist! One day I was running a little late for work, I had already thought of an excuse to use, instead I said ”Today I was disorganized, I need to sort out my time management”. My manager did not expect that response, he let it slide due to me being honest. Take responsibility for your actions!

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8. Kill them with kindness!

This can apply to all aspects of your life. If anyone has anything bad to say about you, be kind!  Do not stoop to their level; I know it’s easier said than done, but at the end of the day they are only making themselves look bad! If you know it is out of character for you to mirror their actions, then continue as you were. At least no one can badmouth you for being too kind.

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9. Voice your opinions

If you have something to say, say it! Don’t be that person that has a zillion things going through their mind throughout a discussion, yet hesitates to say a word. Be bold; bring it to light, there and then! I was once a very shy girl. I would sit quietly in the corner and barely say anything to anyone. You know that saying “The shy girl catches the worm”, she doesn’t!  (I’m aware this isn’t the actual saying). I wasn’t put on this earth to mimic a tree, no sir! Now I’ve started, I can’t stop and won’t stop!

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10. Be yourself

You are unique, so embrace it! Do whatever blows your hair back. You are a one off, limited edition, non-refundable, non-exchangeable bundle of delightfulness. It’s kind of like when you are proposing your business idea, there’s always a unique selling point. Remind yourself of your unique qualities and run with it!

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You Live and You Learn!

A Distant Stranger

Imagine you are used to someone’s presence and you can’t imagine life without them. They cross your mind throughout the day, you speak regularly and you enjoy each other’s company. Gradually either of you make an effort to keep in touch. It isn’t a case where you are too busy, something has changed and you can’t put your finger on it. You still care about them and you hope things will be back to normal. Before you know it, the regular contact turns into irregular contact and then it suddenly turns into no contact at all.

Someone from my past came to mind the other morning. It was a dream I had the previous night that triggered my thoughts. I had spent quite some time getting to know this person and we slowly grew apart. We would still talk occasionally, in attempt to hold onto what was already lost. Then reality kicked in after a while and I had to accept that things would never be the same.

"People will forget what you said, people will 
forget what you did, but people will never 
forget the way you made them feel!".

There is so much truth in this quote! Funnily enough I vaguely recall what exactly happened back then, but I can remember exactly how I felt!

How does someone you speak to almost everyday become a distant stranger?

Hunt For Happiness

We spend a lifetime looking for happiness. Happiness appears and it’s often taken away from us just like that-  back to square one!  Back to revisiting  the dark place you swore to never revisit.  Years, months, days, hours, minutes; anticipating and wishing for change and just like that it’s gone!   Tomorrow will be a better day you say..Well today is tomorrow and it feels like I’ve taken a step back.  How did I even end up here? Where do I go from here?

Imagine a time when you have wanted something for so long. Then when you least expect it, it comes your way. You’re immediately filled with happiness! You put your fears aside and feel as though you can conquer the world. You sit and think about all the great things to come and then everything suddenly changes..

I believe there is a reason behind everything that happens in my life. There is a reason I’m writing this blog post and probably a reason why you are reading it. I have so many unanswered questions that are constantly on my mind. You know when you genuinely want to know why something has happened in your life. You’re not at the stage where you can say ” I understand and I have learnt something from this”.

That’s me right now! I need answers!

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Too Comfortable In The Comfort Zone!

I’m too comfortable in the comfort zone! Is this even possible? Spontaneity unfortunately isn’t my middle name. I’m so used to my daily routine; I seek change without actually seeking it. Choosing the vegetarian option over the chicken option is not living on edge!

I have experienced a few spontaneous endeavors’, which are usually suggested by friends and I have thoroughly enjoyed myself! You know when you leave all your worries behind and embrace the moment! Waking up the next day, reminiscing about the day or night before and flicking through the few pictures you have stored on your phone. These are the days I need more of!

I need to break out of my routine, go with the flow and look forward to what everyday has to offer me. I am almost 1/2 way to 50 and there is so much I still want to do. I’ve had a few setbacks which I am overcoming, but I think it’s time to work a little harder on exiting the comfort zone! Don’t you? As comfortable as it is, I need to get out of my seat!

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