14 Things I Learned in 2014

Hey, I can’t believe I haven’t uploaded a blog post since September! The reason behind my blog name is to live life with no excuses, so that is exactly what I have been doing! Here is a list of the things I learned in 2014:

1. There is no such thing as normal

What is normal?

‘conforming to the standard or the common type; usual; not abnormal; regular; natural.

Who sets these standards? I’ve been called weird more times than I can count on my fingers. I didn’t quite understand why I was put into this category. I would thoroughly think about my actions to determine what was so abnormal about them.

I’m still yet to come to a conclusion, I do not care for being ‘normal’. I only know how to be Rochelle and I will continue to do so. So the next time someone says ‘You’re so weird ‘or ‘Why are you so weird?’ I will take it as a compliment. Who wants to be normal anyway? 😛

2. I am in control of my emotions

The moment I left ‘self-doubt’ and any fears I had at the back of my mind, I was finally able to live life and experience new walks of life. One day I was so fed up of everything and made a conscious decision to make a change. It didn’t happen overnight, however it did happen so fast that I didn’t have time to think through what was going on.

I started to enjoy life at present and not over think everything or allow any negative thoughts to corrupt my mind. I started feeling happier, braver and most importantly I started to believe in myself more. 

3. My ‘problems’ are minuscule in comparison

Whilst I’m over here stressing over a little breakout or what to wear on a night out, there is someone out there going through something 100 times worse. I have seen true strength over the last few years, some of my loved ones have been through the worst and you would never even know it. Although you can’t run away from your problems, some problems aren’t really problems and it all depends how you perceive them.

4. Partying isn’t the only means of fun

I’m used to seeing people upload pictures of nights out and I sometimes think ‘Aww I’m missing out’. At one stage I thought I was in the boring category when I had no interest in going out, but you know what I’m not a boring person. I have my own idea of ‘fun’ and that’s where the party is at for me. Every once in a while I will throw on a dress, some heels and shake a leg or two, but there is only so much shaking one can do and it becomes repetitive. Quite frankly I would prefer to be snuggled in bed with a cup of green tea and a good read (haha I sound like a right adventurous one right?)

5. I am adventurous

One evening whilst I was on holiday I thought it would be cool to attempt to fly. I’ve seen superheroes do it on TV, so it was only right I put it to the test. OK- I’ll tell you the actual story. I sprained my ankle whilst of holiday last September. Just my luck right? I cannot recall how exactly it happened or how I managed to miss one step (Yes, it was one single step and it wasn’t even that steep). I can assure you that it didn’t stop me from enjoying my girly holiday. I picked myself up and continued with my evening, then I spent the most part of the following day in a Spanish hospital. Unfortunately I was unable to participate in any water activities for the remainder of my holiday. Next time I will stay clear of all stairs, I promise!

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6. Sleep is my sweet remedy

I love waking up feeling refreshed and raring to go. I’m one of those people that aims to go to bed early and it usually work out (Well 9 times out of 10 it does). I must admit the cold weather makes it almost impossible to drag myself out my bed, however once I’m up, I’m up! Gone are the days when I force myself to stay up and find some sort of entertainment. My duvet, pillow and iPod are my means of late night entertainment. By 10pm I have already planned the last few tasks before I hit the sheets.

7. There is no ‘happy’ in settling

If you have experienced waking up and having to mentally prepare yourself for a day filled with activities you dread- you will understand where I am coming from! I have spent days counting down the hours till I am finally free. The moment I’m free, I’m happy and in my element. There was a period of time where I woke up feeling excited and I looked forward to the day ahead. I loved what I was doing at this time and it was a highlight of my year. I will return here again. Always be grateful for what you have right in front of you, we have to do what we have to do to make ends meet, but do we really need to compromise our happiness for XYZ?      

8. I like my own company

I always have… I don’t get bored of my own company. I’m the kind of person that will go out and socialize from time to time, but after a while I need ME time. Not because I am depressed or in an emotional state, this is how I operate. ‘Don’t take it personally’

9. If everybody is going left and I want to go right, go right!

Just for the sake of it! It may be the wrong choice, but at the end of the day it was my choice. I don’t need to be where everyone else is.

10. Wasted time is worse than wasted money

This one speaks for itself. I can forget about the money I’ve put towards overindulging in my favourite snacks; however my time is so precious. Money can be made to replace what is lost; I can’t get back the time I’ve wasted on people or things. I often think about all the time I have invested in other people and irrelevant activities and if I could turn back the hands of time I would have thought twice about doing so. Note to self: set aside time to invest in yourself frequently. You live and you learn!

11. There is a first time for everything

It’s been a while since I could talk about any new experiences. I would avoid answering questions like ‘When was the last time you tried something new?’ because knowing me I would answer with ‘Yesterday I tried Texas BBQ flavoured pringles’ – The sad truth is that was as exciting as my life was.

As some of you know I had never been on a plane, I hadn’t even spent more than 5 days away from home. 25 years on the planet and the only place I really knew of was ‘Home’ (London). Towards the end of 2013 my friends and I discussed going on a girly holiday. At that point in the time I wasn’t sure how I would get there, but I did! I spent 7 days in Ibiza with 8 other girls which was a little out of my comfort zone (I’m not a party girl!). The holiday opened my eyes to the unforeseen and I cherished every minute of it. Now to plan where I’m off to next!

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12. I am a blogger!

Yes blogging is my thing! I have my own domain name and the freedom to write about whatever I like until my hearts content! 

In April 2014 I decided to write a blog, I had no idea what to name my blog or what I was going to write about. I’m not one to express myself in so many words to any and everyone; however blogging was a whole new world to me and there was no looking back once I started. Before I knew it I was hooked on my blog and my blog has kept me going. In the past I’ve struggled to write 500 words about myself and here I am publishing my 80th post. Whoop!

13. Turning 25 wasn’t the end of the world

To be honest I do not feel 25- I’m still young at heart and there’s no reason for me to act my age. I’m over my ‘OMG I’m not married or in my dream job role yet’ rant. My life doesn’t have to be in order at this point in time. This year was spent investing valuable time into figuring out where my interests lie and it has worked in my favour. I will make mistakes like everyone else and pick myself up and keep going.Things will fall into place when the time is right.

14. I am whatever I believe I am

If I think I’m incapable of being the best I can be, I will portray this to the world and the world will respond to this. I have been working hard to ensure I feed my body with healthy foods and control the amount of junk food I consume mentally. I was afraid to be happy due to past experiences; I was stuck in a loop where I imagined everything being taken away from me in a blink of an eye. I believe there is so much more out there for me and I am going to go and get mine! If everyone else can do it, why can’t I?

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Here’s to Living with no excuses

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6 Reasons To Appreciate Your Job 

1. The people you meet

I’ve met some truly awesome people at work who have become friends outside work. There are days that may not be considered as good days and it’s the people I work with that make my day. You may not make any friends, however you may benefit from learning how to adapt to working with all kinds of people.

2. The experience/skills you gain

It looks better to have a job then to have a huge gap on your CV/resume. Believe it or not future employers do sympathize and understand the difficulties people go through to find a job. Your skills are transferable in one way or another.

3. The income

We live in a world where everything has a price, so do what you have to do! Your job title is irrelevant; it’s what you do when you’re there. Be proud of how far you’ve come. You see that pay check you just received? You earned it! Go you!

4. The connections 

Ok not every job you’re in will have worthwhile connections. Stay in touch with those you get along with. I’m not suggesting you force contact with everyone; Let it come naturally, check up on people every once in a while. Stay on good terms and never close doors unnecessarily. You never know what the future may bring; they do say it’s who you know that puts you at an advantage.

5. You were offered the job for a reason

Your employer likes you? Great! I’m sure they didn’t hire you for that reason alone, I can guarantee they expect you to put the work in. If this wasn’t the case they would be better off hiring someone they dislike, but does the job well. At least they would be getting their money’s worth.

I had to remind someone of this the other day. This person seemed to think that due to his employer liking them, they were sure to hold onto their job. I pointed out that their recent actions were giving their employer reasons to think otherwise.

You are being paid to do your job, at least do it well!  You could be the best computer programmer in town, but don’t think for a second that the best programmer in the next town won’t snap up your job. Don’t be the one that gets replaced. Always keep on top of your game!

6. You chose to be there

Your employer offered you the job; however you took the first step and applied for the job, you sold yourself, they offered you the job and you accepted. You didn’t have to say yes, but guess what? You did! At one point in time this was what you wanted and you got it. It is your choice to remain there. If over time things have changed rethink/reevaluate your goals and start over.
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5 Tips For Getting Your Motivation (Mojo) Back 

Writing 101, Day Sixteen: Serial Killer III– Imagine you work in a place where you manage lost or forgotten items. What might you find in the pile? I took an alternative approach for this assignment…

1. Reevaluate your goals 
Over time things change, we change. The things we once wanted turn into the unwanted. There’s no point convincing ourselves that we want the unwanted, dig a little deeper and start over if you need to.

2. Talk to someone 
I have friends that allow me to vent and vice versa. I never feel like I’m being judged by them; they listen, advise and encourage me. Reach out to someone in your life that fits the bill.

3. Write your feelings down 
6 months down the line you may feel like you’re losing your motivation again. Use your diary to understand how you felt and how you worked towards getting your motivation back. It’s not dwelling on the past; it’s reminding yourself how far you’ve come and helping to get you back on track.

4. Write your goals in list form
I made a bucket list and posted it. I have more goals which I have elsewhere for personal reasons. Glance over your list regularly, imagine you are about to perform your favourite song on stage and keep repeating your list to yourself.

5. Picture it
You can make your own collage for your bedroom or pretty much anywhere! Wherever you are you can look at all the beautiful things you desire. Pinterest is a great app to use; I dabble in it when I’m on the go.

And if you still can’t find your Mojo, you can share mine 😀
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Read about The Day I Lost My Mojo here

Photo credit: http://about.me/julientromeur

Yesterday I Lost My Mojo

Writing 101, Day 4: The Serial KillerWrite about a loss: something (or someone) that was part of your life

I have no idea where he is! I lost him somewhere between my workplace and my house. The last time I checked he was sitting comfortably in my pocket whilst he guided me throughout my day. I’m not myself today! Positive energy is still flowing through me, but things aren’t the same without my Mojo!

He has disappeared before and returned shortly after, so I know I won’t need to send out a search party. In the beginning I assumed he would always be by my side, now I’ve come to realise that he needs time alone too. Most days I’m blessed with his strong presence as he motivates me and pushes me to the limit.

I woke up in the middle of the night to see if he had returned and he was nowhere to be seen. I didn’t wake up in the morning feeling invigorated, instead I felt frustrated and a tad bit lost.

He isn’t one for words and this is his way of addressing the fact that I need to make a change. Mojo knows that it’s only a matter of time before I’m back on track. Once I’ve completely reevaluated my goals he will make an appearance. We all need time to recuperate and reevaluate and I guess today is that day for me!

Here is a photo of him in case you were wondering what he looks like!

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How can I stay mad at this cute little fella? 🙂 I need my Mojo back!

Photo credit: http://about.me/julientromeur

What Makes You Happy?

If I had to narrow it down to one thing, it would be my family!  No matter if it’s rain or shine my family are always there for me. We are a close knit family, It’s always nice to know I have my little support unit.

I look forward to our regular catch ups, which sometimes last longer than anticipated. We spend a lot of time sharing stories, reminiscing, laughing and exchanging advice.

I want them to have the very best in life because they truly do deserve it!

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What makes you happy?

You Can’t Run Away From Your Problems!

They say you can’t run away from your problems and it is so true! No matter where you go your problems will always follow you. We cannot operate our thoughts with an on/off switch or select which day we’d prefer a thought to run through our minds.

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I’ve had my own little escapism plans, where no unwanted thoughts could enter. I would find little things to distract me and I would often get pleasure out of doing things I wouldn’t usually enjoy doing. Then came the ” Back to reality” wake up call…Sooner or later I was back where I started!

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I have contemplated the places I’d rather be in a hope my problems would disappear. I thought that if I got on a train and travelled to XYZ, my problems would be left behind. I believed this was the solution and everything would be peachy from then onwards.

Boy was I wrong! My problems wouldn’t be left behind on the train, my problems would get off the train with me! In my head it seemed like the easy way out! As we all know; the things we believe are easy sometimes turn out to be not so easy!

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My bed is the main place I visit when I want to run away from my thoughts. A few hours of rest with no interruptions from the voice in my head- what more could I ask for? At times it works wonders, I wake up feeling refreshed, motivated and as if I could take on the world! But when your problems start to haunt you in your sleep, you know it’s time to get your shit together!

It’s time to address the situation and talk things through with yourself!  I’m often called crazy for talking to myself, but my response is ” I’m comfortable with myself”. If this makes me crazy, then so be it!

Sometimes it needs to be done, do what you have to do! If you can’t help yourself then who will? It all starts with addressing the problem and curbing your thoughts as you work towards finding the solution.

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You can’t run away from your problems…