14 Things I Learned in 2014

Hey, I can’t believe I haven’t uploaded a blog post since September! The reason behind my blog name is to live life with no excuses, so that is exactly what I have been doing! Here is a list of the things I learned in 2014:

1. There is no such thing as normal

What is normal?

‘conforming to the standard or the common type; usual; not abnormal; regular; natural.

Who sets these standards? I’ve been called weird more times than I can count on my fingers. I didn’t quite understand why I was put into this category. I would thoroughly think about my actions to determine what was so abnormal about them.

I’m still yet to come to a conclusion, I do not care for being ‘normal’. I only know how to be Rochelle and I will continue to do so. So the next time someone says ‘You’re so weird ‘or ‘Why are you so weird?’ I will take it as a compliment. Who wants to be normal anyway? 😛

2. I am in control of my emotions

The moment I left ‘self-doubt’ and any fears I had at the back of my mind, I was finally able to live life and experience new walks of life. One day I was so fed up of everything and made a conscious decision to make a change. It didn’t happen overnight, however it did happen so fast that I didn’t have time to think through what was going on.

I started to enjoy life at present and not over think everything or allow any negative thoughts to corrupt my mind. I started feeling happier, braver and most importantly I started to believe in myself more. 

3. My ‘problems’ are minuscule in comparison

Whilst I’m over here stressing over a little breakout or what to wear on a night out, there is someone out there going through something 100 times worse. I have seen true strength over the last few years, some of my loved ones have been through the worst and you would never even know it. Although you can’t run away from your problems, some problems aren’t really problems and it all depends how you perceive them.

4. Partying isn’t the only means of fun

I’m used to seeing people upload pictures of nights out and I sometimes think ‘Aww I’m missing out’. At one stage I thought I was in the boring category when I had no interest in going out, but you know what I’m not a boring person. I have my own idea of ‘fun’ and that’s where the party is at for me. Every once in a while I will throw on a dress, some heels and shake a leg or two, but there is only so much shaking one can do and it becomes repetitive. Quite frankly I would prefer to be snuggled in bed with a cup of green tea and a good read (haha I sound like a right adventurous one right?)

5. I am adventurous

One evening whilst I was on holiday I thought it would be cool to attempt to fly. I’ve seen superheroes do it on TV, so it was only right I put it to the test. OK- I’ll tell you the actual story. I sprained my ankle whilst of holiday last September. Just my luck right? I cannot recall how exactly it happened or how I managed to miss one step (Yes, it was one single step and it wasn’t even that steep). I can assure you that it didn’t stop me from enjoying my girly holiday. I picked myself up and continued with my evening, then I spent the most part of the following day in a Spanish hospital. Unfortunately I was unable to participate in any water activities for the remainder of my holiday. Next time I will stay clear of all stairs, I promise!

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6. Sleep is my sweet remedy

I love waking up feeling refreshed and raring to go. I’m one of those people that aims to go to bed early and it usually work out (Well 9 times out of 10 it does). I must admit the cold weather makes it almost impossible to drag myself out my bed, however once I’m up, I’m up! Gone are the days when I force myself to stay up and find some sort of entertainment. My duvet, pillow and iPod are my means of late night entertainment. By 10pm I have already planned the last few tasks before I hit the sheets.

7. There is no ‘happy’ in settling

If you have experienced waking up and having to mentally prepare yourself for a day filled with activities you dread- you will understand where I am coming from! I have spent days counting down the hours till I am finally free. The moment I’m free, I’m happy and in my element. There was a period of time where I woke up feeling excited and I looked forward to the day ahead. I loved what I was doing at this time and it was a highlight of my year. I will return here again. Always be grateful for what you have right in front of you, we have to do what we have to do to make ends meet, but do we really need to compromise our happiness for XYZ?      

8. I like my own company

I always have… I don’t get bored of my own company. I’m the kind of person that will go out and socialize from time to time, but after a while I need ME time. Not because I am depressed or in an emotional state, this is how I operate. ‘Don’t take it personally’

9. If everybody is going left and I want to go right, go right!

Just for the sake of it! It may be the wrong choice, but at the end of the day it was my choice. I don’t need to be where everyone else is.

10. Wasted time is worse than wasted money

This one speaks for itself. I can forget about the money I’ve put towards overindulging in my favourite snacks; however my time is so precious. Money can be made to replace what is lost; I can’t get back the time I’ve wasted on people or things. I often think about all the time I have invested in other people and irrelevant activities and if I could turn back the hands of time I would have thought twice about doing so. Note to self: set aside time to invest in yourself frequently. You live and you learn!

11. There is a first time for everything

It’s been a while since I could talk about any new experiences. I would avoid answering questions like ‘When was the last time you tried something new?’ because knowing me I would answer with ‘Yesterday I tried Texas BBQ flavoured pringles’ – The sad truth is that was as exciting as my life was.

As some of you know I had never been on a plane, I hadn’t even spent more than 5 days away from home. 25 years on the planet and the only place I really knew of was ‘Home’ (London). Towards the end of 2013 my friends and I discussed going on a girly holiday. At that point in the time I wasn’t sure how I would get there, but I did! I spent 7 days in Ibiza with 8 other girls which was a little out of my comfort zone (I’m not a party girl!). The holiday opened my eyes to the unforeseen and I cherished every minute of it. Now to plan where I’m off to next!

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12. I am a blogger!

Yes blogging is my thing! I have my own domain name and the freedom to write about whatever I like until my hearts content! 

In April 2014 I decided to write a blog, I had no idea what to name my blog or what I was going to write about. I’m not one to express myself in so many words to any and everyone; however blogging was a whole new world to me and there was no looking back once I started. Before I knew it I was hooked on my blog and my blog has kept me going. In the past I’ve struggled to write 500 words about myself and here I am publishing my 80th post. Whoop!

13. Turning 25 wasn’t the end of the world

To be honest I do not feel 25- I’m still young at heart and there’s no reason for me to act my age. I’m over my ‘OMG I’m not married or in my dream job role yet’ rant. My life doesn’t have to be in order at this point in time. This year was spent investing valuable time into figuring out where my interests lie and it has worked in my favour. I will make mistakes like everyone else and pick myself up and keep going.Things will fall into place when the time is right.

14. I am whatever I believe I am

If I think I’m incapable of being the best I can be, I will portray this to the world and the world will respond to this. I have been working hard to ensure I feed my body with healthy foods and control the amount of junk food I consume mentally. I was afraid to be happy due to past experiences; I was stuck in a loop where I imagined everything being taken away from me in a blink of an eye. I believe there is so much more out there for me and I am going to go and get mine! If everyone else can do it, why can’t I?

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Here’s to Living with no excuses

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You Are Whatever You Believe You Are

Lately I’ve been so wrapped in my thoughts and this time around its helped me a great deal. It’s been an odd year to say the least. I had high hopes of a lot of things and ended up with so many disappointments. I was looking forward to new ventures and ended up in horrible situations I’d rather forget.

The first part of the year is a blur; the less I think about it… The better! Many of the people I met were nothing more than a mere lesson. I attended a pity party for one and thought to myself ‘Why me?’ ‘What did I do to deserve this?’, I had to leave the party early- it wasn’t my scene!

I spent far too much time dwelling on things in the past instead of working on improving my year. I am a bit of a worrier at the worst of times, I had to turn things around and I’ve come to the conclusion that I am in fact a warrior! I’ve put on a brave face and soldiered on and I will continue to do so!

Surround yourself with those who uplift you

I posted a poem I wrote called ‘Don’t take it personally’ and although I strongly believe time away from loved ones is needed, it is also crucial to vent every once in a while. Not everyone will be able to offer you the advice you need, however it will help you feel better and vice versa. Keeping things bottled up all the time will not harm anyone but yourself. Not everyone will have your best interest at heart, it is up to you who you decide who’s shoulder to cry on and in due time you will discover who is really down for you.

you can’t help others until you help yourself

I hate seeing my friends down in the dumps and I try the hardest to lift their spirits, but I found it so difficult to do so when I wasn’t feeling 100%. I kinda thought I would be of no help since I was struggling to help myself… I was totally wrong here, it’s possible!

My friend was in a similar situation to me, we were pretty much in the same boat to be honest. Every time we spoke he would offer me encouragement and advice. The last time we spoke I discovered he had found an escape, he knew what he wanted and he got it, one of the last things he said to me that day was ‘Sometimes you just have to go out and get it Rochelle’.

I woke up the next day feeling much more motivated. I could see my friend had removed himself from somewhere he wasn’t happy and made some progress. I was happy for him. By now I knew it was my turn, I had nothing to lose after all.

One minute I was counting my misfortunes and the next I was counting my blessings

I recall feeling so angry about EVERYTHING. I walked around feeling like the world was on my shoulders. I overlooked all the good things in my life and when I read about so & so doing XYZ I felt like crap. My automatic response to ‘how are you?’ was never a simple ‘I’m fine’ it was always ‘I’m fine, but..’ but what? I had to remind myself that I am alive, healthy, I have a wonderful family, a great set of friends, a job and so much more. I stopped complaining so much and refrained from driving myself crazy with my thoughts. In no time I noticed a big difference… I started to feel a lot better about all aspects of my life, then I started to see results.

Not everyone will understand your journey, but its okay its not theirs to understand

YESSS, please read the above again. Lately people don’t seem to understand why I am so content. ‘Don’t you have any complaints?’ ‘You’re telling me everything is A-OK?’ Yup that’s exactly what I’m telling you. I keep getting questioned about what is happening in my life lately and why I don’t want to divulge. As long as I’m doing okay that is all that matters- right? I’ve never felt the need to explain the in’s and out’s of what is going on in my life to any and everyone.

Don’t be afraid to be happy

Another blogger said this to me a few months ago.  Its taken me a long time to process the last month or so. It feels so unreal and unlike the beginning of the year, this is a good thing! I’ve proved to myself that when I put my mind to it, I can achieve it! There’s no reason why I can’t live happily like everyone else!

Its all down to my thoughts at the end of the day. If I keep feeding my body with junk food how can I expect to be healthy, its the same with my thoughts.. How can I expect a positive outcome with negativity running through my veins? It doesn’t work like that!

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I Can’t Get Rid Of Them!

Daily Prompt

I still own every single birthday card I’ve received since the age of 1. I read through a bunch I received as a child when I was having a big clear out last year (I clearly didn’t let go of the cards though). I feel like birthday cards hold so many memories…or maybe it’s the hoarder in me typing right now!

I can remember a handful of birthdays and everything from what I did to who I spent my birthday with. Who knows I may never throw them away! I found a bag full of my birthday cards from my 21st birthday, it was a great birthday and I wish I was 21 again!

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What Makes You Happy?

If I had to narrow it down to one thing, it would be my family!  No matter if it’s rain or shine my family are always there for me. We are a close knit family, It’s always nice to know I have my little support unit.

I look forward to our regular catch ups, which sometimes last longer than anticipated. We spend a lot of time sharing stories, reminiscing, laughing and exchanging advice.

I want them to have the very best in life because they truly do deserve it!

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What makes you happy?

8 Reasons Why Being A Kid Rocked!

I took a little trip down memory lane…This is more or less a childhood vs. adulthood post.

1. Everyone was my friend!

Every single kid in my class was my friend. Every day it was ” My friend Tom, my friend Lisa, my friend …” How did my parents manage to keep up with my crazy lifestyle? My childhood friends and I had our little “He said, she said” sessions, but it was never anything major like the drama that sometimes arises as an adult.

We may have been naive as kids, but some of us were also very forgiving and let things go easily. This is something many adults struggle with. Now I can count all my friends on one hand, just about and not everyone I meet is instantly a friend.

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2.  “I can’t wait until I grow up”

Be careful what you wish for! When I said I couldn’t wait until to grew up, I didn’t mean it! I’m almost convinced the candles I blew out on one of my birthdays granted this wish. If I blow out the candles on my next birthday reversing this, does this mean I would miraculously become a kid again? The years flew by so quickly, I didn’t realise how easy I had it!

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3. Too blessed to be stressed

The only stress I encountered was when I had to decide if I should watch Goosebumps on Fox Kids or Are you afraid of the dark on Nickelodeon! It really was a hard decision to make!

Needless to say, these two shows were  probably the reason why my china doll stayed in the box and didn’t see daylight more than twice in a good 20 years! Now as an adult there are far more worries in the world! I rarely find the time to even watch TV and yes the china doll is still in a box somewhere!

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4. Ready, Steady.. I didn’t have to cook!

I didn’t have to cook, well real food anyway. I could whip up a meal in a jiffy and I wouldn’t have to worry about the washing up. Although my mum taught me to cook from a young age; I wasn’t cooking meals by myself until I was at least 10.

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5. What’s love got to do with it?

There was no pressure to be in a relationship as a kid. I had no interest in guys and I didn’t have to wonder if a guy liked me back. A guy in my primary school class once told me he loved me and I was so confused! He kind of received the same reaction any guy would get now if I’m honest!… Something’s never change!

I only had to worry about arranging dates for Barbie and Ken from time to time, to keep the spark alive!

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6.  Sleep is for the weak!

I used to try to avoid going to bed at all costs. I would lay in my bed in broad daylight wondering why I couldn’t stay up late. I was jealous of the kids that were allowed to stay up late.

Now that I think about it, there was no need for me to up late watching TV beyond the watershed period. On special occasions exceptions were made; I could stay up later than usual, often forcing myself to stay wide awake, so I wouldn’t miss out on anything.

If I could go to bed at 8pm every day, I would… I really would!  Sleep? What is sleep? What is a lay in? I have no recollection of either of these! There is so much to do and so little time.

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7.  Ohhh, wait a minute Mr.Postman….

I wanted to receive letters so badly as a child. I would ask my mum why no one ever sent me any post and she would warn me of what was to come. Now I see a letters with my name on them, I feel like asking the postman if he’s sure they’re for me!  Bills, bills, bills, don’t really want to pay my telephone bill… but I guess I will! It’s actually such a relief when a letter isn’t addressed to me!

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“Postman Pat, Postman Pat, Postman Pat and his black & white cat…”
 

8. Pocket Money

Pocket money is now a pay check, for me anyway! Maybe there are adults out there that still receive pocket money from their parents? If this applies to you, you are very lucky!

You get what you earn when you enter the world of work. Gone are the days when I was given money for looking cute whilst I played with my toys! I wasn’t one of those kids that received money for doing chores; my mum didn’t believe in paying us to do things that needed to be done.

I’m not entirely sure how much pocket I received; I just know that the money would s-t-r-e-t-c-h! I could indulge and enjoy the finer things in life. My lunch money was £2 a day throughout Secondary School.

If I tried to live off £2 a day as an adult, I would struggle and I definitely couldn’t be able to feed my appetite! My mum took care of all of that, now I have my own responsibilities.

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What did you love about your childhood?

Going, Going, Obsolete!

The technology I miss the most is Portable CD Players! I had quite a few in my time. The last one I owned wasn’t your ordinary CD player, it played MP3/ Data CD’s. I didn’t have to carry around my CD wallet and flick through different CD’s all day. All my favourite tracks could be complied onto one disc, it was a dream come true!

I will never forget carrying it around in the pocket of my hoody (I hated carrying bags back then), or squeezing it into my back pocket.

Remember when manufacturers claimed Portable CD Players were jog proof? Only problem was when you made any movement, your music would move with you! I do wonder if they even last whilst jogging!

Technology has evolved over the years, but nothing beats the sound effects that came with Portable CD Players!

 

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My Dream Reader

My dream reader would be my grandma. She was the first person I thought of when I read through this assignment. Although she is no longer with us, I would have loved to know her thoughts on my blog.

I was quite young when she passed away, I remember hearing Aretha Franklin’s Natural Woman and it has stuck with me to this day.  I automatically think of my grandma when this song is played. I am aware this song is about a different kind of love, however the lyrics truly do describe the affect she has on me in a nutshell. I can’t even begin to describe the sudden rush of emotions that just came over me whilst listening to this song.

She was a kind, understanding, genuine and caring woman. I admire her determination and she has inspired me to strive for a better life. My grandma was the definition of a woman of many talents; she was known for her hand embroidery, cooking and gardening. I would love to be at least half the women she was! Her memory will always live on within my family.