The Sweet ‘n’ Sour Fruit Tale Part 1

Writing 101, Day Twelve: (Virtual) Dark Clouds on the Horizon: Write a post inspired by a real-world conversation.

This conversation took place 5 years ago, it is a true story and I still remember it to this day. We’ll call these two Arnold and Beth. They clicked from day one; Arnold found beauty in the way Beth spoke and Beth felt comfortable in Arnold’s presence. Beth struggled to express how she truly felt, so she hid behind her sarcasm and witty remarks. One day Beth started talking in riddles to display her affection. Arnold didn’t look at her like she was crazy or question her sanity, he riddled with her!

“We need to talk”.

“Okay then let’s talk”.

“There is this fruit and sometimes it can be sweet and on the rare occasion its sour. I don’t know which one I’m getting on a daily basis. I’m uncertain if this fruit is constantly this sweet or if it’s only around me. I don’t know if I should bother with this fruit or if I should throw it away. What do you think?”.

“First you need to ask yourself if this fruit gives you food for thought. If you feel like you are stuck in between the fruit being sweet or sour, maybe you should open the fruit up more and then you’ll get to know it a little better”.

” In a way the fruit does give me food for thought, I wouldn’t bother with it if it didn’t. The fruit is intriguing and I think about it a lot. I’m told I keep my guard up, but if I knew more about the fruit, then the fruit may end up finding out more about me”.

” I think you explained it in the best way. Its the fear of not knowing enough about the fruit apart from the sweet layer that makes you wonder if there is anything beneath this layer. I’m pretty sure the fruit would like to know if there are anymore layers to a particular fruit just as much as you do”.

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Arnold attempted to let Beth know how he felt in the past and she pushed him away. Beth hoped the riddling session would open new doors, however she somehow slipped back into her old ways. Arnold was left in a confused state of mind yet again and the sweet ‘n’ sour fruit tale continued!

9 Lessons I’ve Learned From My Mum

1. Take everyone with a pinch of salt
Not everyone will be to your liking. People have said that I see the best in people and this isn’t necessarily the case. I’m far from naive; I’ve been taught that giving people the power to annoy me will not benefit me in the long run. There are situations that could have turned out the complete opposite, but I refused to let people get the better of me. Of course there are times when this is hard to do, I am only human! Accept differences whenever possible and keep it moving!
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2. Every spoil is a style
There have been a few times I’ve questioned my mum’s outfits, although she wears her clothes well! My mum responds with her famous line “I paid for it, it’s clean and I didn’t rob anyone. So I will wear whatever I want”. Wear whatever you feel comfortable in!

3. Dance like nobody is watching
No matter what the occasion is my mum will dance the day or night away. She is the party! Wherever there is music she will dance, even if there isn’t music I can guarantee she will make her own. I’ve been in the middle of a conversation with her and I’ve turned around to find her dancing on the other side of the room. Dance your troubles away!
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4. Don’t put dampers on it
If I’m frowning and my mum enters the room, I know I have to turn that frown upside down ASAP! She will question me and once I begin to reply, she will cut me off and say “I don’t want any negativity in here” then a little rant will follow this. You may be wondering why she didn’t give me a chance to reply, this is her method of helping me get back on track and it works! I grew up on tough love and it didn’t do me any harm! Try to remain positive!

5. Do not rely on anyone
No expectations = No disappointments. If someone pulls through, then great! If they don’t, no biggie! We all need a helping hand from time to time, however if you can do it yourself then…

6. Do it yourself
I can’t even count the amount of times I have witnessed my mum do things I wouldn’t even imagine doing. Whilst my friends were playing outside; I was inside helping my mum plaster a ceiling or assisting her as she built a wardrobe from scratch! I remember a neighbour saying that my mum and another lady on my street were manlier than all the men on the street put together (There was a compliment in there somewhere I promise lol). If my mum can do it, so can I! I am not implying that I will be making a wardrobe from scratch though.
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7. Friends come and go
Over the years I have realised the amount of friends I have is insignificant. I can count all my friends on one hand and that’s okay because they are the ones that have been there for the long haul. My mum would tell me about what to expect in terms of friendship groups and I didn’t imagine it coming true. I guess my mum knows best!

8. Passion is your oyster
I’ve never come across anyone as passionate as my mum. I almost feel as though I’m looking into her heart as she talks. She was lucky enough to find her passion at a young age and it is has stuck with her to this day.
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9. One kindness deserves another
I consider this to be my mum’s all time favourite quote. She has mentioned this quote over and over recently. I can hear her in my head right now saying this quote to my brother. If someone is kind to you, be kind back!

 

What’s Your Purpose?

Writing 101, Day 1: Unlock the mind 

I do not believe for a second that I was put on this earth to live without a purpose, I am not here to sit and look pretty! I was a little bundle of joy my parents decided to bring into the world, they wanted me to grab hold of every opportunity that came my way and live a fabulous life. I have been molded into the person I am today due to my upbringing and along the way I have been searching for my purpose.

I’m not certain if I will find it tomorrow or even next week. I can’t guarantee that I will find my purpose, all I know is that I am determined to search for it.  I used to believe that having a good job would lead to finding my purpose. For some strange reason I’ve always despised being asked the question ‘What do you do?’ What does this even mean? I breathe, eat and sleep just like you! I used to avoid this question at all costs! Instead I would share my plans to start my own ice cream van business or my plans to become a pirate.

I’ve realised that my job doesn’t define me, if you want to put me into category based on my job title, then so be it! I may be in this job today, but who knows where I will be tomorrow. I honestly do not want to end up being that person that constantly takes work home after work and forgets to live life.

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On my journeys to work I have seen people that are all suited and booted, and they look so miserable! At first glance I admittedly assume some of them have fairly well paid jobs. Then there’s the happy go lucky people who may not have best jobs, but they have the biggest smiles on their faces! Who knows they may be happy with their jobs! They may even have a passion they are yet to pursue and it is keeping them going. Just remember your current situation is only as permanent as the thoughts you allow to stream through your mind.

Many of us work because we have to; the purpose of working is to pay bills and so on. This doesn’t necessarily define your purpose on earth. Paying bills is something we all have to do. Over the years I’ve asked others if they enjoy their jobs and only a handful have said yes. Of course there are the lucky ones that are passionate about their jobs and work doesn’t seem like work for them. Are you one of those people?

If not, you can always look a little deeper, so many of us have hobbies which we are so passionate about and we have the ability to do so much with them. So what if your current situation doesn’t reflect your purpose? I am going to try my hardest to gain insight into more of my interests and hopefully my purpose will become a lot clearer. Right now I feel like I am on the right track!

Is it possible to lead a happy life without a purpose? Do you feel as though you have found your purpose? I believe that once you find your passion it will lead to your purpose.